Wednesday, September 28, 2011

First Pre-martial counseling session

We are going to our first pre-marital counseling session on Saturday. I'm a little nervous, as I have never done counseling with Mr. C before so I'm interested to see how this goes. Anyone have any ideas on what to expect??

Until next

I'm home!

I'm home from Oklahomaaaa. If you have seen the play, which Mr. C recently took me to before I went to visit the family. You know that song. Hysterical. So the gma is doing well, surprisingly, for not eating and sleeping all the time. It is so weird to see her and think wow you have cancer. It was surreal, but an awesome experience. She shared so many memories, love, and advice for my upcoming marriage and wedding. It was truly beautiful. Thank you for all of your support.

We (my gma and I) picked out and ordered these:  We searched and searched for exactly what I was looking for. I bought them from here. And found a coupon online. Shipping and everything $65.

We also found:
These are from beautiful. The store is

Lots more to come just not enough time to print it all, plus tons of stories to tell you! Looking forward to catching up on your blogs tonight while I'm at a training. I know I'm horrible.
Until next time....

Thursday, September 15, 2011

I haven't been all wedding talk...

So I found out yesterday that my grandmother has terminal cancer and has a couple of weeks to live. So I am packing up to head out west to spend her last days with her. She has graciously said she wants to help me make some wedding decisions. So my huge wedding binder will make the trip with me as well. She also has some things that she wants me to bring back with me for the wedding. As sad as this time is, I am so blessed to know I have this time left with her to make some special memories and hopefully use some things from her wedding 65 years ago! They just celebrated their 65th Anniversary last month. She hasn't met Mr. C yet because my grandparents haven't traveled in years and it is expensive to fly out west for two people. He is being fabulous and taking a couple of days off to spend a long weekend with us so she can meet him. Lately, if it isn't one thing, it is another but I appreciate all of your sweet messages and patience with me as I am dealing with the ever changing things around me.

All things wedding...
We have narrowed it down to 3 wedding venues in the DC area.
1. Springfield Country Club - our family friends have a membership and want to offer this to us as a location.
2. Westin - Washington DC - Mr. C's company has deals with the Westin so we would be getting a reasonable rate for the hotel.
3. Tyson's Corner Marriott - Mr. C and I have built up points over the years which would reduce the cost

My goal is to have a deposit down on a place shortly, we are still in the negotiating stage.

After I finalize the place - hopefully by next weekend, I am going to send out an updated Save the Date email card. Yes, I am going cheap again on the Save the Dates.

We had to sit down and go over the guest list again as we were planning to send invitations to all we wanted, knowing that not everyone would be able to make our destination but expressed that they wanted an invitation. We are inviting 75 people, knowing that usually 75% of the people you invite will show up.

Looking forward to reading your blogs! Hope you are having a great start to the school year.

Until next time....

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

If you noticed, I added Life to my blog title! I decided that I haven't been talking just about weddings anyways so why not make it about everything in my life :)

Until next time....

Big Changes and Happy First Day of School!!

I've been gone for a month and I just haven't been able to compile a post yet. As I told you before, my dad beat cancer, although is still without a job been a year now. After very careful and prayerful consideration, I have decided not to accept any money from my parents for the wedding.

We have also had to reconsider our venue as Aruba is an expensive trip for my parents who just don't have the money right now. So, we have decided that we are going to have the wedding somewhere in the states either in DC or Florida. DC is going to be COLD in the Winter for our date, which we aren't really wanting to change since we have told everyone. (12/30/12). Plus, I do not want to get married in 2013 - I guess I am superstitious.

For the past month, I have been getting deposits back and trying to inform the family that we aren't going to Aruba anymore for our wedding. It's been really hard - I sound spoiled, I know, I really wanted to beach wedding and it so fit into our budget. Now I really have to penny pinch because other developments have come about:

- I had to get a new car mine died! I tried to not spend too much of my savings but I had to so my monthly payments would be reasonable.

- We have been traveling to NY a lot due to Mr. C's grandmother being ill, as you know tolls and gas are expensive so we have been splitting it.

- With giving the money back which I feel so happy about being able to do for my parents, we know have an extremely small budget so I am trying to figure out how we can make this work and still be a wonderful memory for us. Our goal was never to bend the bank anyways.

- My mission for September is to go venue searching. Pick a venue and pick up from where we left off. With having the wedding at home, we have to plan on way more attending than just 30. So this is going to be an adventure for us.

- We are going to continue doing our premarital counseling which has been such a blessing throughout this whole time. I had always thought we have talked about everything we needed to talk about, especially since we both have different religious upbringings. We are reaching each other on that deeper level that I didn't realize we hadn't really gotten in our own personal conversations.

- Plus, Mr. C - which if you know him, he has been a commitmentaphobe and wanting to wait on everything, is wanting to get down to the baby making as soon as we get married, so we decided to finish the basement of our newly purchased house and add on a top level to the attic area so we have some additional space to our three bedroom home as right now we have the Master bedroom, he has an office as he works from home a couple of days a week, I have had an office as well as we all know teachers never stop working, plus I do some additional jobs during the school year and summer which require me to need space to work. Now we could always give up a space for a baby, but we want more than one so we both decided he would move his office to the attic area, which is a great area, I will move my office area to the Kitchen area (we are adding a built in desk) so that we have two rooms available for babies and a basement play area. This project will probably take as long as the wedding planning but as Mr. C has said - this allows him to do his type of planning and me to do mine. Perfect compromise. As I have told you before, Mr. C is not really into the wedding planning - he just wants to have it and enjoy a surprise party for our love as he likes to call it.

The first day of school yesterday was fabulous. My students reminded me that it is all going to be okay and I should harp about things I can not control. Weddings are a happy time and the best time of your life -- I need to get back to that, stop worrying and enjoy the moments.
Until next